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Lately, I have felt like a burden to my family. Things have been really stressful and even if they don’t say it, I know they find me to be a disappointment. There’s just a lot going on and I'm not sure what to do. I just feel like I won’t ever catch up to who I’m supposed to be. I don’t have my license, my parents feel ashamed, I’m not great at school. I just don’t know. Should I just give up who I am and live by their standards? What’s your advice?

-  Pumpkin

Hey there!

I’m going to have to answer your ask with a solid, resounding no.

I can assure you that you are not in any way a burden to your family. So what you don’t have your license. You don’t need a license to feel accomplished or anything like that, seriously. I know a 29 year old who is just getting his license now. In fact, according to Tim Henderson, an author from PBS, nearly 71.5% of teenagers in 2015 didn’t get their license. You aren’t behind. I promise.  

“I don’t think I will ever catch up to what I’m supposed to be.” So tell me, what exactly are you supposed to be? You are young. Live your life. Don’t limit yourself to someone you are “supposed” to be and keep an openmind. Only then, will you become who you’re 'supposed' to be.

My point is you aren’t supposed to be anyone, besides the person you are currently. Live in the now, focus on what you want and need to do right now, and you will see that who you are supposed to be isn’t influenced by small things such as getting amazing grades or getting a license. They are irrelevant. You are successful because you choose to be successful and putting yourself into the ground, is not the way to do that.

Your family is blood. They will be with you through everything. You’re still young. Your parents understand that. They do what they do because they care.. It’s all because they care. Now, you say you are a burden and your family is ashamed. But are those facts really true? Family sticks with you through everything,, they are there. They are not ashamed of you, and I can assure you that you are not a burden.

I sit behind my screen, and I ask you, a complete stranger, to not change who you are.. I am a stranger, and I care… Your family cares. You are so young, my friend, don’t miss out on your opportunities.. So take care, love always, dream big, and most importantly, keep carrying on because what is life, but one grand adventure.


Evangelina Amity

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